Chapter Two

I am someone who always knew he was going to be a father.

Sometimes it seems our culture presents dads as men who fell unexpectedly into parenthood, as if it was a ditch we didn’t see coming on the road of life. The natural drive, the sense of destiny — that’s often reserved for women, with the “urge” that apparently overtakens them to the core. Meanwhile, dads slink along until parenthood hits them over the head like a sledge hammer, sending animated tweety birds circling their heads while they slip on their Baby Bjorn in some infant-induced haze.

Not me.

Of course, reveling in my natural daddy-drive was sidetracked by Vampboy’s medical drama that occupied every breath of every moment of every day for years — YEARS. Even recent memory, while we’ve moved into survivorship mode, has been filled with the stagnant sense that our vision for family life would always be dictated by a very special episode of ER. It has been hard to get beyond — to take a risk by allowing a sense of hope and possibility  residency back in our universe.

But eventually, you have to turn the page, and find a new space to bring forth words that summon the future.

We are adopting a baby.


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11 responses to “Chapter Two

  • brynn

    you have been a hero of mine for a long time–but that’s a rather selfish way to put it–you are a hero to a lot of people, and now another little person will be lucky enough to look up to you.


  • Chris

    Congratulations! That is fantastic! You are such good people, and now another life will be able to see that ten-fold. Again, congratulations!

  • Papa Bradstein


    I too have always known I’d be a dad. Thanks for putting into words how that feels in this society. And I’m not just saying this because I’m a fellow traveler in this realm, but there’s a reason you’ve always known that: Vampboy needed an excellent dad, which is why he picked you.

    You all must be excited for the new baby. Can’t wait to meet them!

  • Susan L.

    The love your family has shown through all your struggles has been amazing. What a lucky child to be blessed with such a family. Good luck, and safe journey to you all, as you set out on this new adventure.

  • Kayla

    I was always looking forward to the day you guys would change the life of another young person. He or she will be one of the luckiest kids in the world. And to have Declan as a sibling? Icing on the already amazing cake.

  • Aunt Anna

    Wow! I can’t even come close to expressing how happy I am for all of you!! This child will be so happy and so lucky to be a part of such a fantastic family. I truely can’t wait to meet him/her and to hug all four of you.

  • Janetite Daly (mum of Connor, surviving ATRT)

    What wonderful news! I’m so pleased for you all, you are an amazing family. XXXXXXXXX

  • mumma boo

    Hooray! That is fantastic news! I’m so happy for you all. 🙂

  • Jill

    Wow! I am so happy for you all!!! YAY! Can’t wait to hear more. Congrats.

  • Missouri Cousin

    Congradulations!!!! That baby will be the luckiest baby,to join a family that has a big brother and great parents.

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